I am going to yank your chain…
Yanking is a martial arts tactic too often neglected. Pretty or flashy? Not even a little. Elegant? Only in it’s efficiency. Brutally effective? Heck yes. Intro video below.
Nobody likes being pushed and yet, in martial arts as well as in life, pushing is the norm. Parents push kids, spouses push spouses, bosses push employees, and so on. Pulling, on the other hand, often works better if you have the patience.
Extend your hand and people will usually take it. Give it a gentle pull and they will walk with you. Wait for an employee to step up and then pull them into a project and you will get far better results than if you pushed. Create an opportunity vacuum and pull collaborators into the open space.
In martial arts, if you are patient, wait for your opponent to push and then give a yank. Then watch what happens.
Moralizing — a.k.a. “finger-wagging” — is as old as time. Interestingly, despite the fact that it doesn’t work, everybody hates it, and God said not to do it, holier-than-thou behavior is never out of style.
Here’s the thing: people are really smart, and they copy other people who are smart, successful and worthy of admiration. The best way to get people to clean up their behavior is to shut your mouth and focus on cleaning up your own. Pull other people in the right direction, like moons pulled into a planet’s orbit by gravity. Everybody will be happier including you.
Something that pulls without touching is called alluring which has the same root as lure. A lure is of course a thing used to get a fish on the line so that you can pull it in. So, to pull you into the project that my son and I started this past weekend I’m just going to allure you with a photo set and minimal words. How’s that for yanking your chain?
[Today is the 12th anniversary of my father’s passing and during the project I was conscious that the date was approaching. He was on my mind. And I thought that if he was around, he would’ve really appreciated the mysterious thing that we’re creating. So I made sure to use my father’s tools so that he could be in the project with us. Rest easy Pop, thanks for the help!]
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